Random rants: That kind of love
Hey
it's been a while, and it's been a tough and lonely month, but it is absolutely necessary. i truly pray and hope that everyone is coping and finding the joys in the little things. One thing that sparks joy for me right now, is a nice sweet drink. Not that healthy, but it makes me happy. Plus we're fasting anyways, so nothing wrong with a cup of sweetness.
Anyways, what i really want to talk about is about love. Yeah i know, i always write about deep stuff and feelings, but i really enjoy it, and sometimes i wonder if there are other people who thinks the way that i do. all this while, i strongly believe, in the kind of love that makes u a better person, a kind of love that flows through your actions. In my head, with love, there is no way that you would do anything bad, treat those you love poorly. but instead, because of love, you'll try your best to be there, support those you love endlessly, be kind of selfless, able to tolerate and treat them well.
What makes me believe in this kind of love is how we love god. In my opinion, and based on my observations of other people, the more you love Allah, the more that person will try to be the best servant. Maintaining daily prayers, always asking earnestly, truly accept things that happens and much much more. The more we love, the easier it is to do these ibadah with ikhlas to the point that being able to do it gives you joy. it even makes us sad when we fail to achieve a certain thing that we usually do or planned on doing, like qiam or fasting weekly.
So from that attitude, when extrapolated for love between humans, i believe, that when we love, we are able to treat them the best possible way, and hurting them wouldn't be an option at all. One big difference that i can highlight is, between humans, it would involve a lot of understanding. the exact words would actually be empathy. I think if a person cannot empathize, the person is basically selfish. Being able to put yourself in other people shoes and understanding things from their perspective is what makes love more holistic. why ? because everyone feels differently, thinks differently, and different situations can spark different emotions in each people. to be honest, it may sometimes be difficult to empathize. But i think a common misunderstanding is when, people think they have to try and understand with their own mental capabilities which is totally wrong. that would be extremely difficult unless you've known each other way too long. So asking questions and trying to understand the emotion that the other person is feeling, is also a form of empathy because it shows that we want to know, we want to understand and we want to see things from their perspective. So questioning is naturally a part of empathizing.
well, my point is, this is the kind of love i believe in. one that flows through our actions naturally.
but, that's my own personal opinion, and to be honest, there will surely be multiple variables that may affect this belief. But reality will not destroy hope, or at least i won't let it. I will continuously hope, that a day will come where everyone is filled with love, that makes them better, and makes those they love better too.
it's been a while, and it's been a tough and lonely month, but it is absolutely necessary. i truly pray and hope that everyone is coping and finding the joys in the little things. One thing that sparks joy for me right now, is a nice sweet drink. Not that healthy, but it makes me happy. Plus we're fasting anyways, so nothing wrong with a cup of sweetness.
Anyways, what i really want to talk about is about love. Yeah i know, i always write about deep stuff and feelings, but i really enjoy it, and sometimes i wonder if there are other people who thinks the way that i do. all this while, i strongly believe, in the kind of love that makes u a better person, a kind of love that flows through your actions. In my head, with love, there is no way that you would do anything bad, treat those you love poorly. but instead, because of love, you'll try your best to be there, support those you love endlessly, be kind of selfless, able to tolerate and treat them well.
What makes me believe in this kind of love is how we love god. In my opinion, and based on my observations of other people, the more you love Allah, the more that person will try to be the best servant. Maintaining daily prayers, always asking earnestly, truly accept things that happens and much much more. The more we love, the easier it is to do these ibadah with ikhlas to the point that being able to do it gives you joy. it even makes us sad when we fail to achieve a certain thing that we usually do or planned on doing, like qiam or fasting weekly.
So from that attitude, when extrapolated for love between humans, i believe, that when we love, we are able to treat them the best possible way, and hurting them wouldn't be an option at all. One big difference that i can highlight is, between humans, it would involve a lot of understanding. the exact words would actually be empathy. I think if a person cannot empathize, the person is basically selfish. Being able to put yourself in other people shoes and understanding things from their perspective is what makes love more holistic. why ? because everyone feels differently, thinks differently, and different situations can spark different emotions in each people. to be honest, it may sometimes be difficult to empathize. But i think a common misunderstanding is when, people think they have to try and understand with their own mental capabilities which is totally wrong. that would be extremely difficult unless you've known each other way too long. So asking questions and trying to understand the emotion that the other person is feeling, is also a form of empathy because it shows that we want to know, we want to understand and we want to see things from their perspective. So questioning is naturally a part of empathizing.
well, my point is, this is the kind of love i believe in. one that flows through our actions naturally.
but, that's my own personal opinion, and to be honest, there will surely be multiple variables that may affect this belief. But reality will not destroy hope, or at least i won't let it. I will continuously hope, that a day will come where everyone is filled with love, that makes them better, and makes those they love better too.
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