Part of growing up is losing people

 Hi and assalamualaikum

Life sure is interesting, a lot of things happen in the blink of an eye, and suddenly i am adult nearly reaching 30. I still can't quite believe it that i started this blog when i was in highschool and i am still writing here until today. Sooo, about the title, recently i felt very disconnected to someone i felt i was so close to even tho just for a bit. Initially, i thought, our times didnt match, or that person must be busy, and all sorts of excuse i made up in my mind cause it was not acceptable to me if that person suddenly decided i'm not her cup of tea anymore.

After quite awhile, i noticed it, none of my excuses were true, but what i dreaded was the actual truth. I'm not that person's cup of tea anymore. Going through this situation i think i went through several phases with many different lessons that i think is worth sharing.

From the very beginning i understood that she has a right to choose what kind of relationships she keeps in her life, and if midway she realizes its not for her, its okay for her to cut it off. Although i understood i didn't necessarily accept it. i kept wondering what caused this, dont i at least deserve an explanation ? Over time, i realized another important lesson. If i was worth her time to share what went wrong, she would have told me already, but the bottom line is i'm not. So i should accept that there is nothing i can do to make this right, because she decided to not give me a reason to fix. And that is also okay. She has the right to do so.

The only issue here is, it took me some time to really let the reality sink and accept the situation. As much as i enjoyed our time together and hoped for more, i had to let go of that expectation and just be grateful for the good memories that we did share. It's not easy at all, i think i struggled for like 3 months, but this was a very casual friendship. More important relationships that have more tangled up and intertwined feelings may be harder to go through, but i believe we can all make it through this with the right mindset.

Always remember to take care of your heart too, don't let it drown in sorrow and guilt for too long. Get back up and rise stronger.