Do it for love

 I choose to live life with love and full of love, always.

Shower people with love, show them kindness, bring goodness, share beautiful moments together, be understanding, have empathy and listen as much as you want to be heard. Most importantly, always try my absolute best.

Love God for all the great things He gave you and all the harm He protected you from and all the good He blessed you with. All of which made you the person you are today

Love can mean so many things, but i hope we don't ever forget to love ourselves enough to know when we have sustained enough pain that it's time to take step back. 

It is important to heal and reconnect with ourselves, reassess our values, have clarity and be more clear-headed at where we're heading in life. It can happen alone, or it can happen together with someone.

Loving yourself, is not selfish. It only becomes selfish when we aren't self aware of our state.

what is self aware ? it's the state of knowing yourself, all the beauty, and the flaws, knowing when your in pain, knowing when you feel good and based on those things treat people kindly, but also set healthy boundaries for yourself. It's like knowing to do things that makes others happy without compromising what makes you happy too. 

Its the balance of being good to all those around you and also being good to yourself. You can only really know this when you are truly connected to your inner self, your feelings and intuitions with God as your guide (never forget that).

There was a point in time when i believed i was emotionally immature, like truly. But you know what, maybe i'm not as mature as i am today, but even at that point of time, i was mature. I was reacting towards different situation a certain way because i was in pain. I do not lash out with healthy interactions.

I also had a moment where i thought i was asking for too much from people. But now that i reassess my needs and values, it wasn't too much. For me, it was basic necessity, so if a person cannot fulfill that, it just means that the value i hold dear to me, is not a priority to that person and it's okay. what's left to do is for me to decide whether this person compromising my value is someone worth my space and time. If their presence is continuously testing me, i should reconsider. Because if our values differ so much in the first place, most likely i am not the only one hurting. The other party is probably hurting too.

So at this age, i know what values that i want to have in myself, which i would highly appreciate if my closest circle have them too. My non-negotiables are

- kindness & thoughtfulness

- truthfulness (being transparent)

- empathy

- vulnerability to open up and, accept constructive criticism, face uncomfortable situations and grow.

- Direct & clear communication

-Attentiveness and a good listener (not top priority, but a big bonus for sure)