a melancholic girl

study shows women are more likely to experience melancholy rather than men

Causes of melancholy for women

  • divorce and the feeling of being overwhelmed with failure, and being a social outcast
♥however, women may see divorce as no more than one of those experiences in the school of life, from which she can walk out with more knowledge and confidence.in fact it is a new opportunity for her to start planning to step into the world of marriage again with new thoughts, yet now with an unforgettable experience
  • ill
♥treatment by the immediate family,the relatives or the husband
  • inability to adapt to changes and lack of faith in god and in destiny
♥ Allah's statement
    " no kind of calamity can occur, except by the leave of Allah: and if anyone believes in Allah ,(Allah) guides   his heart (aright): for Allah know all things "
Prophet PBUH said :

"whoever accepts Allah as a god, and islam as a religion, and Muhammad as a messenger, will definitely be rewarded by paradise"

so a girl should be pleased with god, and understand that everything which happens is from Him, and that He is the Most High, the Most Knowledgable

let destiny flow as preordained,
and never sleep with worries in mind;
and never moan in case of pain,
but sleep with an empty mind,
and no concern;
for at a wink of an eye,
Allah can alter a case from a state into another.

  • period of adolescence itself, with its physical and psychological transformations
  • the mistakes and sins, women cast a shadow over their heart n afflict the soul
♥ the remedy for this is AL-QURAN
"Say: o my servants who have transgressed against their souls, despair not of the mercy of Allah"

from hadith qudsi
" o my servants, you err day and night, but I forgive all sins: so ask Me for forgiveness so that i can forgive you"

so sooth urself regularly with quran and prayers until ur grief completely vanishes.

women by nature is more emotional and melancholic. this is due to the many shocks she recieves in life.

but women also respond positively to happiness.


read o sweet daughter who suffers from distress the book 
Da'i al-Qalaq wa Ibda-i al-Hayah [ leave anxiety behind, and set out on life],
and learn how to make life sweeter. And keep the book 
La Tahzan [don't be sad] by 'aid al-Qarni,
by u as a traveling companion.

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