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Adulting 101 : Things to remind myself

1. Always be thankful 2. Don't take things or people for granted 3. Give your best in everything 4. Don't live with regrets 5. Try, try and try. Don't give up. 6. Live in the moment. 7. Don't waste time worrying 8. Everything happens for a reason, a good one. 9. You don't need to be validated by other people, you are great. 10. Working hard takes you places. 11. Praying is the best kind of hope you will ever get, ask for everything. 12. Living life with love is the best way to go. Go, love. 13. It's always okay to fall down crumble and cry. Just get back up. 14. Envy is sickening. Don't do that. 15. Reflect on yourself, there's always room for improvement. Babe, Allah loves you.

Adulting 101: Being understanding, Being a listener

Hello Assalamualaikum I realize that telling your problems to someone is a big relief only when the person, empathizes, understands, does not judge and ultimately listens well. A lot of people are introverted especially in speaking up about their issues, and when they finally can tell their problems to someone, and when that someone listens well and truly empathize, that alone would be more than enough. Sometimes people just want to be heard, not given solutions Before we try to advise, judge or tell them to do things, always always always start with asking. Ask if their okay with the way things are, whats their problem, is there anything making them feel this way, is something wrong. basically always show that your ultimate cause and reason is your concern towards them. this will make them safe, reassured and feel understood. Many times, we are too quick to judge without considering what the person is actually feeling. By knowing what they are feeling we can manage our response...

Life : Missed my bus

Hey Assalamualaikum What a day, what a day?  Well from the title, obviously i missed my bus. It's a big thing to me, well it used to be, now I'm much more calmer and that's what i want to talk about. Maturity, acceptance, and faith The person i was in the past, I'm a big mess, especially when it concerns time, i really don't like being late, I'm almost always early to everything, and i don't like people waiting for me, and i just reallly really cannot understand people who are constantly late. And i was so caught up in the concept of time, that i missed the bigger picture of basically everything. I used to always blame people for making me caught up with being late and point out people being late, making sure they feel quite guilty. For example, if i was late to something because i was waiting for someone, or someone sent me late or last minute adjustments, i would get so so so upset. Basically i was too uptight, and like i said, i missed the bigger ...

Adult-ing 101: Getting out of a rut

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Hello assalamualaikum Growing up and slowly moving into adult life there are just times where i just really don't feel like doing anything despite of the million thing in my to do list. Even if my mind is saying let's do this, my body and soul is just staying in bed. it's probably because i feel unmotivated and uninspired as if there's no reason to do anything. Well guess what ? Welcome to the RUT. RUT a habit or pattern of behaviour that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change. - google I'm not sure about everyone else, but me particularly, i've been through several cycles of these situation. Most of the time it comes after a really busy and packed week. It sometimes happens after a really long time of doing just one thing or staying in the same place for too long. So how to get out of this rut ? these are the few things that i try to do, and it kinda helps 1. Review your dreams and goals yeah yeah yeah, i know i kno...